A friend as defined by Webster is this:
“Friend: a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection.”
A friend to ME:
People who truly care if you are succeeding, happy, healthy are those who are actually friends. I’ve said it a million times, “people who don’t have a deep sense of meaning, lean on instant gratification and pleasure to fulfil the void.” How can we avoid? By writing out PURPOSE and living by it! It’s seriously as simple as that. Bonus points if you write out purpose with your friends or your significant other. The only thing more powerful than a person with a vision is a group of people with the same vision.
It’s SO easy to get caught up with the wrong people in this version of life. I know, because I have done it during many “transitional periods” in my lifetime. If my “friends” wanted to go out and get hammered, I would think, “hmm, I better, a friend would be up for anything and never let another friend go out alone!!!” Wrrrrong. First of all, my purpose includes being the best version of myself, bettering my business and my father’s businesses and being available for family and friends who truly need me. Not only was going out all the time a waste of money and my precious time, but it’s a waste of my health! I was working out regularly to avoid getting fat because of the excess sugar and meaningless calories. WOW. Looking it right in the face is like, what the hell was I even thinking?
Now I work out to BE HEALTHY, feel good and be the best version of ME for myself and my family. I wasn’t very approachable to my employees or anyone for that matter, being hungover after a night of drinking. But I was “there” for my “friends” right? Wrrrrong again. Bar friends may be great friends but not those who have no consideration for your true sense of self, and definitely not those who don’t have a sense of self themselves. If the friendship is not working, your heart will know. It's when you start being less than perfectly honest and it's when the things you do together no longer feel right. Either some communication will mend and help them, or it’s time to cut ties and move on to your true happiness. Success will follow.
Significant others are the same and different. Especially if you’re married! You can’t just cut the cord… I suggest my honeymoon special MAKE IT HAPPEN planner package for those. Before committing to one person, it’s very important that each of you know that youre purpose includes each other and some of the same common goals. I am not saying it needs to be word for word the same, because… real life. But I AM saying that partners are on the same team!
I’m begging anyone reading this without PURPOSE to dabble with it in the next week or month. Why are you here? What’s the point of working your ass off day in day out, maintaining a home, paying for insurance for that car, what is your POINT? What do you hope to live out? What do you want your legacy to be? How do you want to make people feel? What accomplishments are you going to make, but most importantly WHY? Think of it in 4 different areas: Personal, Family, Career and Society/ Faith. The next step is staying on track. Write out 50 goals for your year. (Back of your planner) Not only naming your goals, but which directional method to use and what is your deadline for the goal? Always remember to be flexible on when and how you get there but don’t be flexible on your dreams. Before you start, tell yourself you have zero tolerance for not attaining them. Because you ARE able. And you WILL do it.